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The Good Body by Eve Ensler

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ThegoodbodyNow that I am in my thirties, I have tried to adopt a healthier relationship with my body, and appreciate the curves that I have developed.  I have also come to terms with the fact that maintaining my shape is a daily task, and loving my shape is a lifelong battle.  This is all so much easier said than done. Why is it so easy to see the beauty in others, and neglect to see the radiance staring back at us in the mirror?  Some days I am my own worst enemy, and no amount of makeup can make me feel better when my jeans are tight. Since I often write in my blog about the importance of inner beauty, I decided to try and practice what I preach.

On the days when I want to burn every pair of jeans I own, and forever hide in my sweatpants, I turn to one of my favorite books.  I have counted on The Good Body  to get me through these moments (and the countless other muffin top catastrophes).  I have re-read this book several times, and even keep it near my desk for instants when I need the boost of affirmation.  Eve Ensler created this book of monologues to demystify the way women of all cultures and backgrounds are compelled to nip, tuck, tighten, and lop off parts of their bodies in order to fit in.  She is brutally honest, funny, and heartbreakingly real in her quest to understand the source of women’s obsession with obtaining physical perfection. The book is based on Ensler’s own struggles with her belly, but it’s also a script that includes years of research and a series of intimate conversations with women from over the world.  Every time I read this book I feel less inclined to grab at my wobbly bits in disgust.  I read this book, look at my body and am thankful that it is strong.   

“This play is an expression of my hope, my desire, that we will all refuse to be Barbie, that we will say no to the loss of the particular, whether it be to a voluptuous woman in a silk sari, or a woman with defining lines of character in her face, or a distinguishing nose, or olive toned skin, or wild curly hair. I am stepping off the capitalist treadmill. I am going to take a deep breath and find a way to survive not being flat or perfect. I am inviting you to join me, to stop trying to be anything, anyone other than who you are. I was moved by women in Africa, who lived close to the earth and didn’t understand what it meant to not love their body. I was lifted by older women in India, who celebrated their roundness. I was inspired by Marion Woodman, a great Jungian analyst, who gave me confidence to trust what I know. She has said that “instead of transcending ourselves, we must move into ourselves.”Tell the image makers and magazine sellers and the plastic surgeons that you are not afraid. That what you fear the most is the death of imagination and originality and metaphor and passion. Then be bold and LOVE YOUR BODY. STOP FIXING IT. It was never broken.”  

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Give Yourself A Personal Reboot!

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Lately, I have been feeling such a shift in how we all are feeling. Too much stress, not enough care for ourselves.  Makeup can be fun, but at heart it is what is going on inside us that counts.  As I have always said, no amount of makeup can mask a sad heart.  The times in my life that I have felt the most beautiful have always had to do with how much I am laughing…not how much makeup I had on.  So, in the spirit of this, I will be starting to share more stories and tips on the blog of how we can create beauty…starting from the inside!  Because being beautiful is not just about makeup.  It is so much more. 

xoxo  Christina 

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 by Lambeth Hochwald for Life & Beauty Weekly

If you’ve been feeling a little crabby lately — maybe you feel more stressed or extra burdened than ever — it is possible to give yourself a personal reboot and be the kind of person others admire.

Our experts offer seven ways to increase your generosity, patience and tolerance — starting today.

Tip No. 1: Fill Your Personal “Pitcher”

Before you can be bighearted towards others, you have to do what certified health and wellness coach and registered dietician Adrienne Raimo calls “filling your pitcher” first. “This means taking care of yourself and your body,” says Raimo. “To be the best you can be, do your best to eat well, exercise and reduce stress. Otherwise, you’ll feel depleted.”

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Learn To Appreciate Yourself

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During this Mother’s Day, I wanted to find something that reminded us all to be kind to ourselves.  I know so many of my friends, who are amazing mothers, yet forget to remind themselves just how phenomenal they are.  I think we all forget this from time to time.  So, on this mother’s day, I wanted to share this article with you in hopes that you will never forget your own perfection.  Be kind to yourself. Love and appreciate yourself. 

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Isn’t It Time to Stop Judging Yourself?

By Stacey Colino for Life & Beauty Weekly

Bad habits aren’t limited to things like nail biting and procrastination. For women, one of the most common and insidious habits is being overly critical or judgmental of themselves. What’s worse, a pattern of self-criticism can become so ingrained, you might not even notice you’re doing it.

“It’s a huge issue for women,” says Alice Domar, who has a doctorate in health psychology and is the author of Be Happy Without Being Perfect. “We criticize ourselves from morning to night, and all that negative self-talk puts you at risk for depression, anxiety and low self-esteem.”

You can learn to silence your inner critic and become more accepting of yourself, however. Start with these strategies:

1. Listen to yourself.
The first step is to recognize when you’re engaging in negative self-talk. Decide to spend a day tuned into your thoughts about yourself and jot down every comment. That night, count how many are negative.

Seeing in ink how many times you call yourself a bad mother or berate your lack of diet willpower helps you realize just how critical you’re being. “It’s a big wake-up call,” says Domar.

2. Be honest.
Now that you’re better tuned in, when you “hear” criticism, ask yourself four questions, says Domar: “Is this thought logical? Is it true? Does this thought contribute to my stress? Where did it come from?” In most cases, your answers will be, “No, it’s not logical or true. Yes, it stresses me out.” And the thought originally came from a former boss, a judgmental relative or a mean teacher you had in high school.

By paying attention to and dissecting the criticism in this way, you can better realize that the criticism isn’t valid. And that’s a crucial first step toward stopping it.

3. Avoid the comparison game.
Comparing yourself to others doesn’t do anything but make you feel bad. It’s unfair and damaging to reprimand yourself because you’re not as thin as one friend or as organized as another. “There will always be someone who will exceed you in some part of life,” says Pauline Wallin, who has a doctorate in clinical psychology and has written Taming Your Inner Brat.

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Afrobella “Make Your Own Runway, Define Your Own Beauty”

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 There are certain people who simply radiate.  The types of people who walk into a room, and fill it with warmth, and beauty.  To me, Patrice Grell Yursik of Afrobella is one of those very people.  Not only is her blog fantastic, but she inspires those around her to embrace their own, individual beauty.  

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Dove Campaign for Real Beauty

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Everyone knows how much I absolutely adore (ADORE!!) the Dove Campaign for Real Beauty and Self Esteem Fund.  Their ad campaigns are thought provoking, and challenge the way the media thinks about beauty.  They seem to embrace women and all our different, lovely, beautiful shapes and sizes.  They celebrate our flaws, and try to encourage us with their ad’s that showcase amazing REAL women.  Please take a moment to visit the Dove website, and read about their inspiring campaign to help young girls gain self esteem by appreciating their own personal beauty.  This commercial is just one of many that remind me to love my body, scars and all.  Enjoy!!

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